It’s my new mantra. For me. This is therapy.
We speak, we share, we chat, we say
“I’m gonna do this”
“I’m gonna do that”
“I believe this”
“I believe that”
“I do this”
“I do that”
We talk ourselves into believing we are doing things
we aren’t. We convince ourselves with a couple of
different meals that we have a different diet.
We convince ourselves we are runners because
we went for a run.
We mentally and socially reward ourselves for a
successful new habit not yet achieved. Maybe
because we want to try it on for size, to check
if it fits with who we are to ourselves and the world.
What ever the reason the result is that it robs us both
of the pain we were motivated to move away from and
the true pleasure of overcoming the struggle and
becoming someone different.
We mini dose and no long have a hunger for the
I get it, sometimes the reverse is true, sometimes
social pressure can help us move mountains.
Sometimes though, you’ve promised magic so
many times that you’ve lost credibility and the
feeling of pressure has gone with it.
Your promise is empty and you know it.
This is the time to shut up and do it.
It’s rebuilding trust, not in others but in yourself.
You’ve lost your confidence. You’ve lost it in the
same way we lose it from others. By failing to
keep promises to yourself.
and trust isn’t regained by grand gestures,
it’s regained by tiny ones.
By telling yourself you’ll do something
and then doing it. Secretly, just for you.
and treating that promise like a little flame
that needs nurturing and protecting from
the world until it’s a roaring furnace that
cannot be extinguished.
New actions aren’t habits.
Habits are formed through interaction with
stress, tiredness, can’t be bothered-ness
and I’ve got better things to do-ness.
Then, when you’ve proved to yourself that
you can’t knock it off course yourself, then
you’re ready to share it with the world.
Then you can light your next little flame,
and with each new furnace your confidence grows.
You only say you’ll do it when you know you’ll do it.